Let’s be honest – doesn’t it feel both strange and embarrassing to ask a complete stranger if they’d like to meet up sometime for a coffee or a glass of wine? Few people will do that while waiting for the bus or having a chat before the gym class, even if the person they’re talking to seems genuinely nice and outgoing, and would most likely be really happy to be asked out on a friend-date!
Meeting friends is an active choice
The perk of using friendship apps is that you can be sure that every user has made the active choice to go out there and meet new friends. So seize the opportunity and don’t let a potential friendship peter out while waiting for the person at the other end of the chat to pluck up the courage! It’s most likely that the other person is just as anxious as you are, and the risk is high that nothing will ever come of it if you don’t take the initiative.
But what should I ask, and when?
We think that it’s best to arrange a meetup as early as possible when the conversation is still flowing freely. Don’t make things too complicated! If the other person has expressed in the profile that she’d like to meet over a glass of wine, well then ask if she’s free next Thursday after work! If she likes to work out, ask if you could join for a run on Saturday. If you’re both on parental leave, suggest meeting at your favorite café, or in the park! Once again, don’t over-complicate things and keep it simple!
Just be casual about it and start the conversation based on the description in the profile.
”You seem to like running, so do I and we seem to live in the same area. I really like the path by the river, where to you usually jog?”
“I see that you are a coffee addict, just like myself! I’ll meet a friend for a cup of coffee on Tuesday afternoon, would you like to join us?”
“I’m also at home with my 2-year-old right now and would love to get out of the house for some air. Are you free on Friday morning, maybe we can meet up and take a walk together or go to the park?”
To summarise, these are our 3 best pieces of advice when it comes to friendship-dating:
- Suggest meeting as early as possible! Don’t wait until your conversation comes to a halt. It’s better to meet while you have a flow and can build your meetup based on initial conversation from the app.
- Suggest an activity – cinema, coffee, wine, a long walk, manicure or maybe dinner! People love when someone is taking the initiative and being creative with suggestions.
- Suggest a date for the meetup (e.g., next Tuesday, in the upcoming two weeks, this weekend?. This way it is more likely to get the planing going and that something comes of it!
We hope that you feel inspired to expand your social circle and create new friendships. As soon as you find someones profile interesting, just contact them directly and GO FOR IT! You’ve got nothing to lose! Okay, now you are probably thinking ”what if the person is not answering?”. Well yeah that can happen but then there are thousands more users that you will find interesting and that would be happy to meet you. You can also try and meet up with a group of girls if you’re more comfortable with that. The thing you’re least likely to regret is having given it a try! Who knows, there might be a new friend for life waiting for you a few clicks away!
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